Trying

[AJ]

Hi Uni. Good for you for having better eating habits. Discussing the lonely issue with your therapist is a good idea. I hope it brings some clarity.

I stood on the scale this AM, for the first time in a long while, and I have not gained any more weight. Celebrate the little things right!

[uni]

Thanks Paul, for asking an excellent question. No, I have not discussed with my therapist why I feel lonely when no one is around. It has simply never occurred to me! This is why I like the forum; when I don't see the obvious, someone else often does. I'm seeing my therapist in September. With luck, I'll remember to bring the subject up!

Btw my eating habits have been not too bad lately. It's kind of nice

[paul m]

Hello Uni. It's good that you were able to control your eating habits while you were away. Please don't take the following as a criticism, Have your ever discussed with your therapist why you feel lonely when no one is around?

That may sound odd, but you strike me as someone who has many people in their life, whether or not those people are actually present.

When my wife is away or busy, I quite easily become bored and sometimes I eat just for something to do. If I can keep busy (without getting into trouble LOL) then I don't eat as much. I also know that it is possible to feel lonely even with people around. Take Care. paul m

[uni]

Went away for over a week and did pretty well with eats and activity (ie. diet and exercise). Now back home and falling into old habits again. I think a lot of it is eating when I feel lonely. Not news, but haven't found a good solution yet.

[paul m]

Hello Uni and AJ. I wish you well on your attempts to lose weight. I had to laugh about the doctors scales being wrong as I have the same complaint about my doctors scales. As I have diabetes I have to step on the miserable thing at least every 3 mths and it's never accurate LOL.

Ditto for meds adding to my weight. Take Care. paul m

[AJ]

I don't feel comfortable at this weight either. I can still fit into my 'regular ones' but not for much longer if I keep 'growing'.

Yes realistic expectations would be a good plan for me too.

It wouldn't hurt to give myself a break either. The meds I'm on don't help one bit. I'll blame them in part.

[uni]

Those visits doctors' visits with their unfriendly scales are never fun! But you're right, I guess we just have to keep at it.

I'm technically not overweight, but I'm over the weight that I feel "like myself" at, and it's an icky feeling although others say I look fine. It's more about the emotions behind my eating. Hence the journalling. And the buying of "new" clothes at the second hand store "until I can fit back into my regular ones". Which sometimes works and sometimes doesn't! I've heard from others that this is not uncommon. Apparently most of us humans have 3 sizes of clothes in our closets and our bodies are always changing. Which I suppose is true.

I'm still pretty stressed overall. My sister is staying with me for a couple of days right now, which is good in a way but not so good when I'm feeling not so good

Realistic expectations are a good idea here, I'm thinking!

[AJ]

I can relate to the extended family driving you crazy. Love them to bits, but sometimes a break from them is a good thing.

My battle with my weight is ongoing. I had my physical yesterday and I don't like my MD office's weigh scale at all. It weighs even heavier then mine does! However my other health issues do put things in perspective.

I guess we have to keep at it Uni. I'm glad there's no food allowed in the bed or the bathtub. Safe zones. LOL

[uni]

Still finding it difficult to avoid too much comfort food

Have done a bit of journalling and it has become apparent that I'm pretty stressed out. June and July and into August there is a great deal going on with family and friends, and I need to watch my boundaries. Same old story: sometimes looking after myself puts other people's noses out of joint.

I love that there are so many people in my extended family, and that I have a great boyfriend and other friends. But dag nab it, sometimes they collectively drive me crazy! This is a sign (along with the yummies I'm consuming) that something has to change. So yesterday I had a heart-to-heart with one of my "peeps", cleared the air, had a laugh and a cry, and feel better in that sector at least.

Last night I read some historical fiction in bed. No fridge in the bedroom so that worked out well Today I took a long bubble bath while reading nonsense magazines. Kinda hard to eat while in the tub, so that worked out well too!

More journaling is in store. Although maybe this post *is* a form of journalling. Thanks for reading.

[uni]

I hear you AJ. Sigh also. But where there's life there's hope....

Catman thanks for the food truck - I mean good luck - wish

[AJ]

I just stood on the scale this AM. Sigh

[catman]

Hi Uni,

I don't have any advice to give, but I just want to say good luck! Ironically, my phone tried to autocorrect good luck to food truck!

[uni]

Posting here doesn't seem to make or break my progress, so this is just an update. I'm back at square one again. But not ready to give up. And so it goes....

[uni]

Got distracted from the purpose of this thread. I did well the last day or two. It helps to not bring temptation home from the grocery store and put it in your kitchen. So my fridge has good stuff like salads and fruit in it. Every little bit helps

[uni]

Yes, cappachino is full of caffeine, but I knew that going in and enjoyed it anyway! I know other people who like the iced Timmy's version, in fact I think they get hooked on it every summer. I don't drink cappachinos or other milky drinks, but frozen yogourt goes down nicely. I've gone to those frozen-yogourt-add-your-own-toppings places and they are deadly! Thank heaven there are none where I live - yet. I'd be using up all my spending money there.

As for the prison dreams, you're on to my checkered past I see....