Okay. My mom was bipolar and committed suicide about a decade ago. My Dad and she were divorced. Dad is now remarried and has depression. They had six kids. The first one has a son with PTSD, anxiety, and depression, and a daughter-in-law who is bipolar. The second one has mental health issues he refuses to have treated, but can function...barely...without medication. As in, life would be a lot easier for people around him if he went on medication, but he won't. The third child, is a doctor. The fourth child has attitude problems related to mental health. More on her later. Then there's me. I'm bipolar. And my little sister has anxiety and depression.
The fourth child is causing serious problems in the family. She hasn't done any research on mental health, as far as I can tell. She has a black and white view of the world. She is wealthy and travels Canada telling stories to family members and friends from her perspective of what she sees in all the families with mental health patients. They are not good stories.
Invariably the mental health patient is "taking advantage" of the situation by not working or threatening to commit suicide. She had a very rocky relationship with Mom and didn't talk to her for the last 10 or 15 years of Mom's life. There was some nasty business going on with money. She did right by Mom in the end, but she lacked compassion and understanding when dealing with her, and did not explain things adequately to Mom. Plus Mom got paranoid over the whole situation. It was just bad news. So she quit talking to Mom...period.
Whenever we mental health patients are in the room with this woman, she finds subtle and not so subtle ways to put us down "in our place", as she sees it. It is very manipulative and very condescending. A very toxic situation.
I have started speaking up for the mentally ill members of the family to other family members...pointing out there is another opinion than this woman's. However, I am appalled that even the doc in the family is listening to her. I roundly told her this week that when this woman actually reads and researches on mental health, then I'll listen to her opinion on the subject. Until then, I have no interest in what she says about anyone.
And just why they are gossiping about everyone really gets my goat. I am trying to be positive about the situations involved as much as possible. These people and their families need help, not criticism and condescension.
Anyone with experiences like these who could give some pointers if I ever have to go head to head with this woman? Right now she and I aren't talking. She views me as sub-human, because I'm bipolar. But if we move, which we plan to in a couple of year's time, she will be more in my face at family gatherings.
The fourth child is causing serious problems in the family. She hasn't done any research on mental health, as far as I can tell. She has a black and white view of the world. She is wealthy and travels Canada telling stories to family members and friends from her perspective of what she sees in all the families with mental health patients. They are not good stories.
Invariably the mental health patient is "taking advantage" of the situation by not working or threatening to commit suicide. She had a very rocky relationship with Mom and didn't talk to her for the last 10 or 15 years of Mom's life. There was some nasty business going on with money. She did right by Mom in the end, but she lacked compassion and understanding when dealing with her, and did not explain things adequately to Mom. Plus Mom got paranoid over the whole situation. It was just bad news. So she quit talking to Mom...period.
Whenever we mental health patients are in the room with this woman, she finds subtle and not so subtle ways to put us down "in our place", as she sees it. It is very manipulative and very condescending. A very toxic situation.
I have started speaking up for the mentally ill members of the family to other family members...pointing out there is another opinion than this woman's. However, I am appalled that even the doc in the family is listening to her. I roundly told her this week that when this woman actually reads and researches on mental health, then I'll listen to her opinion on the subject. Until then, I have no interest in what she says about anyone.
And just why they are gossiping about everyone really gets my goat. I am trying to be positive about the situations involved as much as possible. These people and their families need help, not criticism and condescension.
Anyone with experiences like these who could give some pointers if I ever have to go head to head with this woman? Right now she and I aren't talking. She views me as sub-human, because I'm bipolar. But if we move, which we plan to in a couple of year's time, she will be more in my face at family gatherings.
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