Hi Carrie.
I have only just come across this response. I am sorry I didn't see it sooner.
I am wondering how your son got on and how he is doing now? It is such a lonely job sometimes as a parent in this situation & it's reassuring to know that there are others out there that understand.
I have had a rough few weeks which i am struggling to shake off. Feeling very low. My oldest moved out a while ago & lives nearly 2 hours away. I am really struggling to switch off. I seem to spend my life worrying about what will happen next which I know is wrong but a hard habit to break. My younger son is still at home & does better when my oldest is not around but he is still dealing with his deppression & anxiety! He hasn't figured hu s life out yet!!!
My oldest is constantly on the phone with all his s drama. This week i told him he can't ring me with every little thing & I love him & I'm there for him but he us putting me in the ground. I'm living on a knife edge!!
I want him to sort his shit out & not just keep leaning on me. I want him to be happy. Also on top of that i gave guilt because I don't want him to move home either. I would have him home before seeing him on the street but he hates it here where I live (small village) & brings my life crashing down when he is home & my other son.
I so badly just want him to be happy but I have come to realise he is the only one that can make that happen.
I stopped making his appointments & picking up & paying for his meds too so it's up to him now. He will be 25 in November & has to take responsibility.
BUT it's so hard! I am so lonely & sometimes I feel my shoulders are getting very heavy. I have no partner & not looking for one, my family is in the UK & my friends here don't really understand.
I hope you see this & things are going better for you. I am sorry I never saw this sooner. I retreated into myself for a while & now trying to rebuild myself! Lol
Debbs
I have only just come across this response. I am sorry I didn't see it sooner.
I am wondering how your son got on and how he is doing now? It is such a lonely job sometimes as a parent in this situation & it's reassuring to know that there are others out there that understand.
I have had a rough few weeks which i am struggling to shake off. Feeling very low. My oldest moved out a while ago & lives nearly 2 hours away. I am really struggling to switch off. I seem to spend my life worrying about what will happen next which I know is wrong but a hard habit to break. My younger son is still at home & does better when my oldest is not around but he is still dealing with his deppression & anxiety! He hasn't figured hu s life out yet!!!
My oldest is constantly on the phone with all his s drama. This week i told him he can't ring me with every little thing & I love him & I'm there for him but he us putting me in the ground. I'm living on a knife edge!!
I want him to sort his shit out & not just keep leaning on me. I want him to be happy. Also on top of that i gave guilt because I don't want him to move home either. I would have him home before seeing him on the street but he hates it here where I live (small village) & brings my life crashing down when he is home & my other son.
I so badly just want him to be happy but I have come to realise he is the only one that can make that happen.
I stopped making his appointments & picking up & paying for his meds too so it's up to him now. He will be 25 in November & has to take responsibility.
BUT it's so hard! I am so lonely & sometimes I feel my shoulders are getting very heavy. I have no partner & not looking for one, my family is in the UK & my friends here don't really understand.
I hope you see this & things are going better for you. I am sorry I never saw this sooner. I retreated into myself for a while & now trying to rebuild myself! Lol
Debbs
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