Losing my Therapist

[Sweetest1]

I've been seeing my therapist for a little over a year now. She's an intern, and her internship is up at the end of May, so I'll be losing her.
I'm not taking it very well.

3 years ago I had a great support system, me and 3 close girlfriends, we hung out all the time, cried on each others shoulders, supported each other no matter what. Then slowly one by one each of them has moved away. The last one, my best friend, moved just last month. Now I'm losing my therapist too.

It's like all the pieces of my support system are being taken off the chess board and soon I'll be the king just standing alone waiting to be taken down.

I don't mean to sound so melodramatic but I'm really feeling very sad and abandoned right now.

She'll set me up with an incoming intern, she has a lot of idea's about making the transition smoother for me, like having the new therapist sit in on a couple of sessions, etc..

I can't stop crying and I don't want to go to my appointment today. I'm angry, and sad, and feeling abandoned and hopeless.

Thanks for reading if you got this far, I think I just needed to vent.

[curiousone]

Hi Sweetest1
I totally get where you are coming from. I also have therapist change over due to internships. It's very strange going from someone you've become comfortable with, to a complete stranger. Although they know some of your history from records, it still feels like they know nothing about you. It takes some adjustment, different people have different styles. The one up side of working with someone new, is that you get a fresh perspective. It can be too easy to fall into our old traps, even with our therapists. I try to give it an honest go, knowing that if I really feel uncomfortable with someone, I can request a different intern.
Hope all goes well for you.

[A.E.V.]

I'm sorry to hear that Rebecca! hopefully you'll be at ease with the new therapist.
when I finished with my therapist, there was nobody else... that was it. so I find you lucky to have someone new!



if I lived closer, you could cry on my shoulder!

[Sweetest1]

If you lived closer I would take you up on that. I don't seem to have any willing shoulders nearby.

[Lizzy]

I can only hope for you that the new one is as good or better.

[A.E.V.]

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[FortunesFarce]

How might one loose a therapist due to internship?

I ask bc I am seeking mental health treatment, psychologist- but cannot afford on own so seeking any possible alternatives. I'm wondering about your situation more if you'd like to share, Sweetest1.

BTW goodluck, I hope your new therpist is even better for you!

[Sweetest1]

My therapist is an intern who I see at a reduced rate as part of her obtaining her Masters in Psychology. Her internship is ending as she is finishing school.

[paul m]

Hello Rebecca. I can appreciate how you feel. Not only is it tough to lose a trusted adviser, but then we have to break in a new one. I really, really,really hate breaking in a new shrink.

In regards to losing friends, that's a tough one too. I don't make close friends easily and having an assortment of problems also makes it tough to break in new friends. (not that I have any oddities that they may have to get used too) .

So vent away. Take Care. paul m

[Aurora]

I feel very lucky with the system where I live with all i'm hearing. I have my GP, my Phyciatrist that I see every 2 months as well as my phycologist that I have no really schedule with anymore but can phone anytime & usually talk with him & I don't even have to pay for it- All covered on Provincial health plan.Am losing my GP soon I have heard but will ask him at my appointment Monday- then when he says yes I will freak.I can feel for you.I don't think I could handle losing my PDoc , he's the best.Hope you get someone new that you like.

[astronaut]

Oh Sweetest1,

I am sorry to hear that. I know how you feel, except that I have lost several therapists to maternity leave!! Darned babies! I lost my favourite two therapists to pregnancy. I wish I could find a male to work with but all the men I have worked with I never liked very much.
Good luck with the new one and I encourage you to let your new and old therapists know how you feel. It may make things feel a little better to share these thoughts and emotions.

astronaut

[Sweetest1]

We starting yesterday making a collage of words and pictures clipped from magazines that reminds of us the past year and our time together. It's supposed to help with closure. I'll get to meet my new therapist during a session with my current therapist. She wants to make the last day a celebration of our time together and maybe leave the office, and walk over to Starbucks, then walk back. I hope I won't be too emotional to do that b/c I don't do the crying in public thing.

I tried to call my friend yesterday but she wasn't home. I think I'm going to try again in a few minutes.

Thank you all for your support.

[A.E.V.]

I'm glad that she's trying to make this as easy on you as possible! that's a relief in a sense.
hey, why not see it as a celebration... celebrating how far you've come in the last year!

[AJ]

That sucks Rebecca. I know how you feel. I had two deal with 2 new specialists ( one being a new P.doc) and a lose of a t.therapist all in a short span of time. It's hard, really hard. My new P.doc ended up being a change for the better, although it's hard to 'start over' with someone new.

[uni]

Yeah, that does suck, Rebecca. I hope the next one is good. It's hard to start from scratch with someone new, that's for sure.

I hope you've been able to reach your friend. And the collage sounds like a nice idea. Do you find it has helped?