Spineless

[guilt-n-shame]

Suggestions for growing a backbone now being accepted.

[Determined]

What do you mean gns?

[guilt-n-shame]

I mean that I'm a coward and I don't know how to stand up for myself.

[Determined]

That's a tough one. I often let things slide because I don't want to upset people. I suppose it depends on the seriousness of the situation. I am slowly learning that I can't always shoulder the blame for the actions of others, especially if it is detrimental to my well being. I'm sure you're not a coward. Maybe you're just overly sensitive to the feelings of others, even if puts a burden on you. Take small steps. Practice saying no. I'm not saying I'm a master of it; far from it indeed but I am standing up for myself in the most extreme situations.

[guilt-n-shame]

Honestly, i'm scared excessively that someone is going to not only refute my opinions, but verbally tear me (figuratively) into pieces. I'm reading a book at the moment that mentions that kind of emotional response comes from someone who has suffered abuse, but I can't recall being abused physically or emotionally.

[Guest]

Nothing wrong with not standing up for yourself and keeping quiet when the times calls for it. Takes wisdom.