I am new to this forum thing and asking for help. I have been struggling with depression and dysthymia my entire life and have come to a point where I dont care anymore. I have been with my partner for 13 years and we have 2 beautiful sons together. She is no stranger to mental health as she has forms of OCD and has been through therapy.
My depression has gotten steadily worse the past few years and is taking its toll on our relationship. It is greatly affected by my lack of communication and her need to have everything done a certain way. Her way of helping me is one of tough love... read this book! you have to be the one to come to me! your depression is to blame for our troubles! I cant take you any more! I am not going to give you what you say you need! You are a burden!
Last year we almost separated but we got to the point where we resolved some of the issues with my depression. She still refuses to come to therapy with me saying that I need to work on myself. We are back to that point again of almost separating. No communication no intimacy and house full of anger and resentment. The more it goes on I end up feeling more alone and worthless. She doesn't understand that her tough love approach doesn't help me as it only contributes to my feelings of uselessness and bitterness.
I guess I am on this forum looking for support from someone who understands what a person with depression needs as help. I dont want to lose my family to my illness.
My depression has gotten steadily worse the past few years and is taking its toll on our relationship. It is greatly affected by my lack of communication and her need to have everything done a certain way. Her way of helping me is one of tough love... read this book! you have to be the one to come to me! your depression is to blame for our troubles! I cant take you any more! I am not going to give you what you say you need! You are a burden!
Last year we almost separated but we got to the point where we resolved some of the issues with my depression. She still refuses to come to therapy with me saying that I need to work on myself. We are back to that point again of almost separating. No communication no intimacy and house full of anger and resentment. The more it goes on I end up feeling more alone and worthless. She doesn't understand that her tough love approach doesn't help me as it only contributes to my feelings of uselessness and bitterness.
I guess I am on this forum looking for support from someone who understands what a person with depression needs as help. I dont want to lose my family to my illness.
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