Hi everyone. My name is Dawn. This is my first post so it's going to be a long one. What I'm hoping to find here is people who go through the same things I am. I feel very alone. I suffer from Depression and Borderline Personality Disorder. I'm going through a breakup that I'm blaming completely on myself. I'm growing angrier at myself by the day and I know I'll live with the regret forever of letting him go and not getting help sooner. I feel like I really could have fixed our relationship if I had tried fixing myself earlier. What I mean by that is, he had been kindly suggesting therapy to me since we started dating and I finally decided I needed help almost 3 years into the relationship.By this time, he had already had enough. It was starting to effect his own mental health and he broke up with me after 3 years. I have so much anger towards myself that I can't seem to shake. I know I will live with this regret forever. He was such an amazing person. He was kind, funny, extremely patient, and he never once yelled at me. He had tried for so long to help me and just couldn't hold on anymore even though I had finally started therapy and helping myself. It was too late. And I don't know if I'll ever be able to forgive myself or fully move on.
My depression seems to come and go. (I am on medication, have been for many years.) But right now, it's taking everything out of me. I feel very alone as I don't really have friends. I have my coworkers and acquaintances. I have a great family but I'm extremely private with them. I don't like sharing details of my life with them and especially not my problems. I feel a lot more comfortable talking to complete strangers than I do my family. My ex was the one I turned to. He was my best friend.
I genuinely like how I'm spending my time right now (when I actually do things.) I've found some new hobbies I'm really enjoying but sometimes I can't even gather up the energy to do them. I cry every single night and beat myself up for losing the love of my life. I'm also very scared I'll never find someone else. And I have evidence to back it up. I was alone until I was 25 years old. No one even LOOKED at me before then. The chances of finding someone else that I click with are slim. I'm not someone who will just be with anyone for the sake of being in a relationship. I know what I'm looking for and my ex had every quality I wanted in a person plus more.
I need help. I need someone to talk to who understands what it's like to live with depression and even BPD. My therapist does help but it would be nice to find some friends who have experienced similar feelings/situations as well.
Thank you for reading. I appreciate your time and any help offered. Even messages of support.. Thank you.
My depression seems to come and go. (I am on medication, have been for many years.) But right now, it's taking everything out of me. I feel very alone as I don't really have friends. I have my coworkers and acquaintances. I have a great family but I'm extremely private with them. I don't like sharing details of my life with them and especially not my problems. I feel a lot more comfortable talking to complete strangers than I do my family. My ex was the one I turned to. He was my best friend.
I genuinely like how I'm spending my time right now (when I actually do things.) I've found some new hobbies I'm really enjoying but sometimes I can't even gather up the energy to do them. I cry every single night and beat myself up for losing the love of my life. I'm also very scared I'll never find someone else. And I have evidence to back it up. I was alone until I was 25 years old. No one even LOOKED at me before then. The chances of finding someone else that I click with are slim. I'm not someone who will just be with anyone for the sake of being in a relationship. I know what I'm looking for and my ex had every quality I wanted in a person plus more.
I need help. I need someone to talk to who understands what it's like to live with depression and even BPD. My therapist does help but it would be nice to find some friends who have experienced similar feelings/situations as well.
Thank you for reading. I appreciate your time and any help offered. Even messages of support.. Thank you.
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