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  • nintendofan
    started a topic Alcohol Don't know how to be sober

    Don't know how to be sober

    I have no idea how to be sober.

    Who else can relate to this? Specifically, alcohol is my drug of choice. I'm 28 and i've been more a less an alcoholic since age 18. I've never learned how to just be sober because my past was so traumatic in such a way that there's no one in person i've met has experienced. Part of the reason i've joined this forum. I've only recently admitted to myself and others that i am an alcoholic. And i am finally getting to a point where i need to stop. My mind and body are deteriorating faster than ever. I am going to get very sick soon. But yet i continue drinking. Just wondering if anyone has any advice for me. And perhaps they too have had similar experiences. Thanks everyone

  • uni
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    Hello nintendofan. Just wondering how you've been making out. Not necessarily as to your drinking or lack of, but overall how you've been feeling -- should you want to share.

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  • AJ
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    Hi nintendofan. I have known some who have been able to reduce the amount of alcohol they consume, and many who haven't. I have had a personal relationship with an alcoholic, and I'm not saying you are, and that person could not cut back the consumption amount. When drinking, getting drunk was always the result. To be honest with you, you might want to consider that if you choose to quit altogether, you may need help that involves detoxing. It can be dangerous to stop 'cold turkey' for those who consume large amounts of alcohol, especially on a daily basis. I don't know whether that applies to you, but I just thought I'd mention it.

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  • nintendofan
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    Hi, thank you for the reply. This forum does seem a bit slow, so i appreciate you taking the time to respond. Today i have been alcohol free for 4 days. That isn't a very long time, before these four days, i drank everyday for almost a month, and some days very heavily. I usually only last one or two days without drinking. I think what really scared me is a few weeks ago i had an incident where i was not working for a couple weeks and i was drinking non stop. I was sitting at home with friends and i literally had no understanding of where i was, what had happened in the previous days, or who i was with. I told myself i was very close to losing my mind.

    My friend and roomate told me the other day she doesn't even know how i am alive. She said when i drink, i am unable to speak properly or to formulate thoughts. And i have realized i don't even have normal relationships with others anymore, because i don't communicate with my friends and family sober. I want to change that.

    Being able to write this, to be able to think, to actually think and formulate thoughts- i've realized the past year especially, i've been in a total blackout. But i also realize i will need support to stay sober.

    I will definitely start with going to an AA meeting. That is something i've been planning to do. The first step i think was joining this online support group. I'm ready to make real memories this year. To actually feel emotions and to not numb everything. Am i going to stop drinking entirely though? No, probably not. (To be honest). But i wan't to majorly reduce my intake and not binge drink when i do drink. Is that actually possible? I wonder what those who read this think.

    Also anyone who reads this who needs support, feel free to reach out to me. Thanks everyone... I will keep you posted on my progress.

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  • AJ
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    I donít have anything to add to Uni, I just wanted to welcome you to the forums.

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  • uni
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    Hello nintendo fan, and welcome. For some reason the addictions part of these forums tends to be quiet and therefore often overlooked, despite the fact that addictions and mental disorders often go together. Perhaps if I bump this message up we'll hear from others.

    I've never had a drinking problem, but I go to a support group for people who have loved ones with alcoholism. I'm sorry to hear that it continues to be such a struggle for you. You ask for advice; I've seen people stop drinking by finding a group of recovering alcoholics, sticking around the ones who have long time sobriety, listening and learning from them. Many people find Alcoholics Anonymous to be a literal life saver (they're in the phone book and listed online), and there are other groups around too, sometimes run by a church or a health centre. Phone these people and places until you find someone who is able to take a bit of time to talk.

    A lot of people need to go through a rehab program to get off on the right foot toward sobriety. I don't know from your post whether you've looked into that, or whether you've received any professional help at all. If not, get some wherever you can find some, perhaps a family doctor or social worker or any mental health worker. They can probably point you in the right direction to get help.

    It sounds like going it alone is not doing it for you, so I'm glad you came on here and posted. Alcoholism is notorious for needing frequent face-to-face support,so in addition to online support, so anywhere you can find a "real person" to talk to is worth a try. You have nothing to lose but a bit of talk and time -- the alternative is to do nothing. I suggest looking up your local phone listings under mental health and/or addictions Right now is a good time.

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