My husbands ex is bipolar and last week attempted to commit suicide by overdose. We currently split custody of their two kids and since the incident we have taken the kids on full time.
She was only placed on a 72 hr hold and she felt the hospital wasnt helping so she then checked herself out saying they changed her meds and she was feeling much better.
I know it takes a few weeks sometimes for the medicine to start being effective and to actually notice a change so I'm not confident she is alright but she is now stating it was just her bi-polar and that she wants us to go back to how things were and for her to have the kids more often. Again its only been a week.
My husband and i feel helpless because we don't feel comfortable leaving the kids with her alone. When she made the attempt they werent home but we are scared she could try again. She admitted she got overwhelmed with work and taking care of a house alone but those things havent changed. She runs a daycare out of her house which she is no longer doing due to COVID-19 so she isnt working and now all of a sudden has decided she is going back to school in September but really has no plans so we are worried she will overwhelm herself again.
We both want the kids to stay with us and her have visitation just until she figures out work and focuses on herself and getting better but she is taken it as we are refusing to let her see her kids.
We tried talking to her about it and she became very defensive and refused to listen. She doesnt seem to understand how her suicide attempt affected all of us but we are nervous that she might get upset with us and it will only cause a bigger mess.
I am just looking for suggestions on what to do and even opinions about whether we are taking the right approach or not. I dont feel i am overreacting about the incident as she originally had wanted to check herself into a hospital for a month, prior to the attempt because she was feeling suicidal but I am surprised she feels better so quickly. and just wants to push it all under the rug especially when she woke up in the hospital angry to be alive.
Thank you for any help
She was only placed on a 72 hr hold and she felt the hospital wasnt helping so she then checked herself out saying they changed her meds and she was feeling much better.
I know it takes a few weeks sometimes for the medicine to start being effective and to actually notice a change so I'm not confident she is alright but she is now stating it was just her bi-polar and that she wants us to go back to how things were and for her to have the kids more often. Again its only been a week.
My husband and i feel helpless because we don't feel comfortable leaving the kids with her alone. When she made the attempt they werent home but we are scared she could try again. She admitted she got overwhelmed with work and taking care of a house alone but those things havent changed. She runs a daycare out of her house which she is no longer doing due to COVID-19 so she isnt working and now all of a sudden has decided she is going back to school in September but really has no plans so we are worried she will overwhelm herself again.
We both want the kids to stay with us and her have visitation just until she figures out work and focuses on herself and getting better but she is taken it as we are refusing to let her see her kids.
We tried talking to her about it and she became very defensive and refused to listen. She doesnt seem to understand how her suicide attempt affected all of us but we are nervous that she might get upset with us and it will only cause a bigger mess.
I am just looking for suggestions on what to do and even opinions about whether we are taking the right approach or not. I dont feel i am overreacting about the incident as she originally had wanted to check herself into a hospital for a month, prior to the attempt because she was feeling suicidal but I am surprised she feels better so quickly. and just wants to push it all under the rug especially when she woke up in the hospital angry to be alive.
Thank you for any help
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