Hi,
This... is so difficult. I need to spill a bit.. I'm hoping it will help settle things down slightly. I also need advice.
I'm a 39 year old man that's recovering from a crisis and been having difficulties most of my life.
I know I've got issues, and yesterday I know my problem really revelled it's self... again. I've been suffering depression for years and I'm suffering from multiple anxiety problems (I have two psychical symptoms - elevated resting heart rate, & a short while ago I've been getting a numb head with tingling sensations running through my hair...), racing thoughts, have a hard time letting things go, pretty wild mood swings, and very low self esteem. I'm prone to oversleeping and undersleeping every night.
I don't think you get much more withdrawn from things then I am right now. I avoid social event's... Friends invite me out or over, and I always find an excuse to not go. Company doing a social thing, defiantly not taking part in it - even if it's at my work place. When I do things like laundry or shopping, it's get in and out as fast as possible. I used to work out at the gym, but I just can't tolerate being there with so many people any more. I do ride my bike, but that's not a social thing. So more or less, my social life consists of my apartment and cat.
I don't suffer from drug addiction....Well, change that slightly... I don't suffer from illegal or recreational drug addiction. I don't suffer from alcohol abuse (I don't drink alcohol). I do have quite the coffee addiction (at 6 to 12 cups a day). And I am a cigarette smoker (half a pack a day - but that does go up periodically depending on my anxiety levels, and I'd also like to quit). I also know I'm prone to binge eating various junk foods (esp. chocolate and salty potato chips).
One other area I've rarely had problems with but is becoming quite the problem now has to do with procrastination. It seems to take a lot of effort to get anything started, even more effort to keep at it, and 9 times out of ten I end up never finishing a project. Which brings up an area of my life I'm struggling to keep in check, and that is personal care like trying to keep my place clean and personal hygene.
I don't know if it's good that I know, but at the same time I know if I don't do something about it it will only get worse (and it has been).
One barrier is trying to talk about anything... I never really seem to be able to talk to anyone, and the few people I've tried to talk to dismiss it. Well, except one Uncle who one time asked me why I'm so self destructive... But then I ran into a how the hell do I talk about this and dropped the subject. I've tried to talk about my social anxiety, but all I get is your shy... No, I know this is more then simple shyness. Next biggest barrier is financial... I've been trying to keep my life running smoothly while I try to ensure the bread is on the table, the roof is overhead, and that the bills are paid while I get through my bankruptcy, then I could try to figure out how to budget in help with a psychologist.
However the latest thing that raises alarm flags for me occurred yesterday (once again it's after the fact)... It was just a raw out of control burst of anger - it should not have been anger esp given the whole context of the situation. I was doing my job when me boss came up to me to give me a surprise - my yearly boot allowance. I just exploded and told him to take it back and [BLEEP]... A reaction I know was totally inappropriate on my part, and there are several instances along those lines littered through out my life and it's been on the increase these past 4 years.
Obviously, I don't have a handle on me... Before my life becomes an even bigger train wreak, alienate more people, etc... What should I do with myself? Even though I know finances are very difficult, what are options I should look at?
This... is so difficult. I need to spill a bit.. I'm hoping it will help settle things down slightly. I also need advice.
I'm a 39 year old man that's recovering from a crisis and been having difficulties most of my life.
I know I've got issues, and yesterday I know my problem really revelled it's self... again. I've been suffering depression for years and I'm suffering from multiple anxiety problems (I have two psychical symptoms - elevated resting heart rate, & a short while ago I've been getting a numb head with tingling sensations running through my hair...), racing thoughts, have a hard time letting things go, pretty wild mood swings, and very low self esteem. I'm prone to oversleeping and undersleeping every night.
I don't think you get much more withdrawn from things then I am right now. I avoid social event's... Friends invite me out or over, and I always find an excuse to not go. Company doing a social thing, defiantly not taking part in it - even if it's at my work place. When I do things like laundry or shopping, it's get in and out as fast as possible. I used to work out at the gym, but I just can't tolerate being there with so many people any more. I do ride my bike, but that's not a social thing. So more or less, my social life consists of my apartment and cat.
I don't suffer from drug addiction....Well, change that slightly... I don't suffer from illegal or recreational drug addiction. I don't suffer from alcohol abuse (I don't drink alcohol). I do have quite the coffee addiction (at 6 to 12 cups a day). And I am a cigarette smoker (half a pack a day - but that does go up periodically depending on my anxiety levels, and I'd also like to quit). I also know I'm prone to binge eating various junk foods (esp. chocolate and salty potato chips).
One other area I've rarely had problems with but is becoming quite the problem now has to do with procrastination. It seems to take a lot of effort to get anything started, even more effort to keep at it, and 9 times out of ten I end up never finishing a project. Which brings up an area of my life I'm struggling to keep in check, and that is personal care like trying to keep my place clean and personal hygene.
I don't know if it's good that I know, but at the same time I know if I don't do something about it it will only get worse (and it has been).
One barrier is trying to talk about anything... I never really seem to be able to talk to anyone, and the few people I've tried to talk to dismiss it. Well, except one Uncle who one time asked me why I'm so self destructive... But then I ran into a how the hell do I talk about this and dropped the subject. I've tried to talk about my social anxiety, but all I get is your shy... No, I know this is more then simple shyness. Next biggest barrier is financial... I've been trying to keep my life running smoothly while I try to ensure the bread is on the table, the roof is overhead, and that the bills are paid while I get through my bankruptcy, then I could try to figure out how to budget in help with a psychologist.
However the latest thing that raises alarm flags for me occurred yesterday (once again it's after the fact)... It was just a raw out of control burst of anger - it should not have been anger esp given the whole context of the situation. I was doing my job when me boss came up to me to give me a surprise - my yearly boot allowance. I just exploded and told him to take it back and [BLEEP]... A reaction I know was totally inappropriate on my part, and there are several instances along those lines littered through out my life and it's been on the increase these past 4 years.
Obviously, I don't have a handle on me... Before my life becomes an even bigger train wreak, alienate more people, etc... What should I do with myself? Even though I know finances are very difficult, what are options I should look at?
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