Hi all,
I'm having a really hard time dealing with my anxiety toward my relationship lately. Ever since I lost trust in my boyfriend (can pin it back to about a year ago now), I've been trying to build it up again. However, I find that with the loss of trust, I'm always anxious about our relationship, to the point where I almost feel obsessed (which makes me sick). The biggest problem I've been having is doubting practically everything he says. I also become very agitated with his choice of words - for example, I'll read into something until it drives me mad. He's a pretty poor conversationalist, so contact can leave me feeling very unsatisfied. I also get very annoyed when he doesn't respond for ages. I know, I know, typical girlfriend behaviour, but honestly when we're just sending a couple texts each day, I feel he's barely in my life. Sometimes I get so fed up that these feelings creep into the times I get to see him, and it sours the moment. I can't tell if this is something *I* need to work on, or if I'm giving too much to someone not willing to give back. Basically, is this a me problem that I need to address, or is this just growing pains of a relationship? Any advice or experiences greatly welcomed.
I'm having a really hard time dealing with my anxiety toward my relationship lately. Ever since I lost trust in my boyfriend (can pin it back to about a year ago now), I've been trying to build it up again. However, I find that with the loss of trust, I'm always anxious about our relationship, to the point where I almost feel obsessed (which makes me sick). The biggest problem I've been having is doubting practically everything he says. I also become very agitated with his choice of words - for example, I'll read into something until it drives me mad. He's a pretty poor conversationalist, so contact can leave me feeling very unsatisfied. I also get very annoyed when he doesn't respond for ages. I know, I know, typical girlfriend behaviour, but honestly when we're just sending a couple texts each day, I feel he's barely in my life. Sometimes I get so fed up that these feelings creep into the times I get to see him, and it sours the moment. I can't tell if this is something *I* need to work on, or if I'm giving too much to someone not willing to give back. Basically, is this a me problem that I need to address, or is this just growing pains of a relationship? Any advice or experiences greatly welcomed.
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