It is possible to get over depression?

[Tseng]

Hi , I am New in here and I hope you all enjoying your day.

I've been diagnosed with Major depression a few months ago , never saw it coming cause in my head I thought I was normal but my boss and co-worker recommeded me to go see a doctor because I was crying and angry at work almost everyday.

Since I've been to meet therapist every week and doctor every two week , 300 mg antidepressants every day (Zoloft and buproprion) and honestly I don't feel any better..

I don't see any reason to keep fighting , I don't know what I like , how to go out , how to socialise because I've been drinking every day since almost 8 years almost everyday so it was (how I call him) Gab2 , my other drunk self who was there for the last year.

I'm not drinking anymore , I am eating clean , working out everyday and sadly suicidal thoughts happens way more frequently than it never did.

I don't feel like there is any point to my thread , just wanted to know if we can ever get over depression or we just learn to live with it .

it's 30 degrees outside with a beautiful sunshine and I am still here crying. I'm tired.


Gab

[AJ]

Hi Tseng and welcome to the forums. I'm sorry to hear that you are having a hard time right now. I hope you're feeling better soon. I don't know how long you've been seeing your therapist, or how long you've been on the medication you mentioned in your post, but I would encourage you to have a talk with your doctor about how you're feeling. Sometimes people end up stuck on medication long after a fair trial period has passed, without an adequate response to it, because the doctor is is either unaware that the medication is not helping, or hesitant to make changes when they are warranted.

[bucky310]

Hi Gab / Tseng,

Welcome to the forums. It's a nice place to vent frustrations, celebrate successes, help out others, etc. Sorry to hear you're not doing well. I've had those moments too.

While I cannot speak to whether or not depression is something you can actually get over, I know from experience it can improve immensely. The right medication / support do wonders.

Sometimes it takes a while to get the right meds. I personally was on my medications for about 2-3 years before finding my right balance. Things like the winter blues play into it for me, so I found it took me a while to find the right mix. Once I did though, most of my days were normal.

Now I also went to therapy to talk about life and my frustrations. Therapy can be a great healing tool I think and I would recommend it. However, each person seems to experience this disease in a different way so your experience may vary.

The main advice I can give is to seek help, stick with it, and if you're feeling like medications aren't working or something is off, tell your doctor. I've found my doctors to be quite willing to help.

It doesn't get immediately better. It takes some time. A tree does not grow in the forest in a week. But it does get better. Take it from me!

Hope you feel better.

Welcome again!

Take care.

[Fighting back]

Hi Tseng and hello to everyone else as well. Been a while since I have visited.

Can you get over depression? Good question. I can hold myself up as the best example that I know of. For the most part, I can function once again, but once you go down the rabbit hole, well...........

If you are specifically talking about medications and treatment, it is possible to regain your former life, but it is a very personal assessment. What works for one may not work for all. I personally credit CBT for any improvement in my situation and I have not had a great deal of success with antidepressants. Your results may vary.

I still have those days when my place in the world is not a happy one. I still live with the fear that the black dogs may overtake me, but I have come to the conclusion that it is just one of the risks along life's journey. Managing the risk becomes paramount and I have been fortunate. It took me 5 years to fight back from the brink and it took many years to bring me to the brink. I don't view my depression as a mark of shame. There is plenty of good company along the way. I have been fascinated by the tales that even the well known like Robin Williams bring forward. I am saddened that such a talented man could not achieve the success that I have and I accept the caution that situation brings that depression can strike anyone at any time. Unfortunately, the examples keep coming and I am powerless to change this reality. Acceptance and understanding are key points.

I do come back here from time to time. One does form a sort of attachment to the names online and I do think of you all quite often. I have the best wishes for all of you and sadly, I acknowledge the struggle that remains ongoing for many of you. Hang in there.

It occurred to me the other day that all we are is really just someone else's memory. Certainly would not do any good to taint such a legacy and that may be the best reason for sticking around.

[rbailey83]

Hi , I am New in here and I hope you all enjoying your day.

I've been diagnosed with Major depression a few months ago , never saw it coming cause in my head I thought I was normal but my boss and co-worker recommeded me to go see a doctor because I was crying and angry at work almost everyday.

Since I've been to meet therapist every week and doctor every two week , 300 mg antidepressants every day (Zoloft and buproprion) and honestly I don't feel any better..

I don't see any reason to keep fighting , I don't know what I like , how to go out , how to socialise because I've been drinking every day since almost 8 years almost everyday so it was (how I call him) Gab2 , my other drunk self who was there for the last year.

I'm not drinking anymore , I am eating clean , working out everyday and sadly suicidal thoughts happens way more frequently than it never did.

I don't feel like there is any point to my thread , just wanted to know if we can ever get over depression or we just learn to live with it .

it's 30 degrees outside with a beautiful sunshine and I am still here crying. I'm tired.


Gab

Hey, I've been dealing with severe chronic depression since I was 12 so about 23 years now. I know what you are feeling like, feeling like a completely different person, the loss of interest, not sure how to socialize etc. It's good that you are eating healthy every day and working out everyday. Those are both things that will help with mood. It's also good that you're on medication but if you're not feeling any better on the current meds and you've given them at least a month to get into your system I would definitely recommend going back to the doctor and asking to try different medications. You really have to take charge of your healthcare. Be upfront and honest with the doctor on how you are feeling and that the meds aren't working so you'd like to try something else. There are a lot of medications and medication combinations out there, I know because I have been through them all.

Depression is not always lifelong for everyone, sometimes it might be short term, long term or it could be for life. The suicidal thoughts can be very difficult to handle, I have them multiple times a day with the urge to follow through I just lack the ability to follow through. You are taking the right steps and not drinking anymore is a very big positive thing to cut out as that can make things so much worse in the long run. I know it's hard to keep up hope, but there are options out there, different meds, other forms of treatment and definitely explore the options with your doctor.

I have found another good tool to have under the belt and to use is mindfulness. Even if you can take 10 minutes out of your day and listen to a mindfulness session, there are tons on youtube or through google, you may find that over time it helps and can help calm the anxiety for a period of time. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) can also be very helpful and a good book for that is called Mind Over Mood by Dennis Greenberger and Christine A. Padesky. I think there is a second version out now but it is an informative book plus a workbook to put into practice the methods they talk about.

I hope this helps in some small ways. All the best!

Richard

[Tseng]

Thank you so much for taking time to reply , I've been away for a while and I am sorry about it .

I really thought I was ready to go back to work
. I wasn't feeling any better to be honest , but my insurance company was "kind of" rushing me and I told my self that at least I was well rested and ask me why , I feel bad not working.

Today was my 5th day at work , I wasn't able to complete it. I feel exactly like I used 6 months ago , or 5 years ago , only difference is I am sober now.

I am down , I've been away from the internet as much as I could because I do compare myself too much and that's hurting me. I think everyone has their own path , I would never judge nobody on their life choice but I feel like everybody is judging me all the time.

That said , without facebook or whatever social media . I never felt so isolated from the world , plus , the more time I spend alone to more time I want to be alone . Now I get frustrated when I go out , like if the atmosphere was heavier and I have difficulty to breath and then that woke up this anger inside me.

So many more to say , but I've replied to thank you guys , I've took consideration of what you told me and indeed, I'll have a good talk with my doctor about maybe trying new medication and probably we'll end up with something.

I am not feeling any better , but sadness has become to anger and somehow , I think I can use this as an advantage.

Also English is not my first language so sorry for Typo.

Gab.

[AJ]

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