Well, I'm feeling ungrateful right now. I've found out some people have planned a surprise party for me this weekend, and instead of feeling happy and liked, I'm feeling stressed and disappointed (because when asked - at least twice - if I wanted a celebration I said No, please and thank you, but thanks for asking).
No doubt it will go fine, but I had been sort of looking forward to a quiet time with a couple of friends (who are not part of the group putting on the party, and who I feel like I don't have to be "on" with). But as no concrete plans were in place yet with them, here I am resigning myself to this surprise get-together. I halfway saw it coming because these people love a chance to celebrate almost anything. To be honest, I wonder whether this is actually for me, or for them.
They only gave my b/f short notice and he is cancelling a planned work/social event for this, one I know he was looking forward to, which is pretty unfair to him as well. So he'll be coming to stay at my place a day early, which is a bit of a time crunch for both of us to get our stuff together, and I feel pressured already because of him visiting, but that's more to do with relationship stuff.
My b/f spilled the beans to me, partly because he figured that if caught offguard I might react badly, given my anxiety sometimes when it comes to social events. I thanked him for giving me a heads-up. He said he'd rather have everybody else mad at him than have me mad at him, as he chuckled. He's accepting this better than I am, mind you he's known since yesterday and also doesn't have the same anxieties as me.
As I say, I fee like an ungrateful so-and-so for even thinking negatively about this when I "should" be thrilled. And of course I feel guilty about it. So here I am venting on my computer after a crappy sleep.
I wish I liked this stuff but I really freaking don't
.
Does anybody else feel the way I do about well-meant but misguided "surprise" parties
?
No doubt it will go fine, but I had been sort of looking forward to a quiet time with a couple of friends (who are not part of the group putting on the party, and who I feel like I don't have to be "on" with). But as no concrete plans were in place yet with them, here I am resigning myself to this surprise get-together. I halfway saw it coming because these people love a chance to celebrate almost anything. To be honest, I wonder whether this is actually for me, or for them.
They only gave my b/f short notice and he is cancelling a planned work/social event for this, one I know he was looking forward to, which is pretty unfair to him as well. So he'll be coming to stay at my place a day early, which is a bit of a time crunch for both of us to get our stuff together, and I feel pressured already because of him visiting, but that's more to do with relationship stuff.
My b/f spilled the beans to me, partly because he figured that if caught offguard I might react badly, given my anxiety sometimes when it comes to social events. I thanked him for giving me a heads-up. He said he'd rather have everybody else mad at him than have me mad at him, as he chuckled. He's accepting this better than I am, mind you he's known since yesterday and also doesn't have the same anxieties as me.
As I say, I fee like an ungrateful so-and-so for even thinking negatively about this when I "should" be thrilled. And of course I feel guilty about it. So here I am venting on my computer after a crappy sleep.
I wish I liked this stuff but I really freaking don't
. Does anybody else feel the way I do about well-meant but misguided "surprise" parties
?
, so I know how you feel. Good Luck with it, I hope that you are able to enjoy yourself. Take Care. paul m
, the reason for the celebration is that I AM RETIRING FROM MY JOB!! FINALLY!! Yeah, I guess a celebration is definitely in order here 
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