I don't know how much "Help for Families" this thread will be, but as a person with mental illness I sometimes need "Help with Families". In this case, the relationship with my boyfriend.
My anxiety about life in general is spilling over into how I deal with others, and I don't like feeling stressed out over having a relationship that's actually going rather well, and yet I am. Having not been part of a couple for many years, and now being in a serious relationship, I sometimes fear I'm not a strong enough swimmer for these deeper waters, and start to panic .
This past weekend I planned on bringing up a couple of things I was anxious about with my b/f. Imagine my surprise/relief when the topics sort of arose naturally out of our conversations, and lo and behold I calmly and honestly said how I felt. I didn't even get rejection or anger or pouting coming back at me, which is what would have happened with previous partners.
However, we both felt some pretty uncomfortable emotions, and now I've got lingering anxiety - what's he thinking? how's he feeling? is our future in jeopardy? - etc etc. Rumination I think it's called.
So that's it for now, but I'll likely post about it again because growing pains, although good in a way, are still painful. I had a tdoc appt today though, and it helped.
My anxiety about life in general is spilling over into how I deal with others, and I don't like feeling stressed out over having a relationship that's actually going rather well, and yet I am. Having not been part of a couple for many years, and now being in a serious relationship, I sometimes fear I'm not a strong enough swimmer for these deeper waters, and start to panic .
This past weekend I planned on bringing up a couple of things I was anxious about with my b/f. Imagine my surprise/relief when the topics sort of arose naturally out of our conversations, and lo and behold I calmly and honestly said how I felt. I didn't even get rejection or anger or pouting coming back at me, which is what would have happened with previous partners.
However, we both felt some pretty uncomfortable emotions, and now I've got lingering anxiety - what's he thinking? how's he feeling? is our future in jeopardy? - etc etc. Rumination I think it's called.
So that's it for now, but I'll likely post about it again because growing pains, although good in a way, are still painful. I had a tdoc appt today though, and it helped.
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