Hello, I’m so glad I found this forum. By the way my user name is meant to be ironic (I do try to fix things) but I also realize that you cannot fix mental illness.
My boyfriend of several months has what his therapists calls Hypomania (explained to me as a lesser form of Bi-Polar). He was very upfront about this condition when we first met although I had no idea he was in a manic state then, I had known him years ago and he seemed like the same guy. We are in a long distance relationship. Now he’s in the depth of depression and he says that we started (our relationship) too early (he is having major troubles in separating from his wife of 30+ years, the financial strain of it, his family is estranged, and he’s finding his current (very new) job taxing). A lot for anyone to take on regardless of mental condition). If he were on an even keel he would be able to handle all of these pressures, but he cannot. He is asking the soon to be ex-wife for assistance (from all outside accounts, they are very co-dependent), he says he sees her as a friend (she prefers him when he is depressed as he is malleable), but refuses all help from me. He says he loves me and he sees his future with me. This whole situation is very confusing to me.
My gut is telling me to walk away, but my heart wants to help this man in any way I can (I love him very much).
My boyfriend of several months has what his therapists calls Hypomania (explained to me as a lesser form of Bi-Polar). He was very upfront about this condition when we first met although I had no idea he was in a manic state then, I had known him years ago and he seemed like the same guy. We are in a long distance relationship. Now he’s in the depth of depression and he says that we started (our relationship) too early (he is having major troubles in separating from his wife of 30+ years, the financial strain of it, his family is estranged, and he’s finding his current (very new) job taxing). A lot for anyone to take on regardless of mental condition). If he were on an even keel he would be able to handle all of these pressures, but he cannot. He is asking the soon to be ex-wife for assistance (from all outside accounts, they are very co-dependent), he says he sees her as a friend (she prefers him when he is depressed as he is malleable), but refuses all help from me. He says he loves me and he sees his future with me. This whole situation is very confusing to me.
My gut is telling me to walk away, but my heart wants to help this man in any way I can (I love him very much).
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