I recently read an article that attempted to empower readers to refuse to be seen as burdens when they are suffering and need to reach out for support. During the times when I went to therapy, this discussion surfaced numerous times and I eventually came to believe it to be true: when I am suffering, and turn to my friends or loved ones for words of support, a hug, a shared walk, or simply a hug, I am not a burden. I am sharing my vulnerability and humanity. But I can't quiet the voice that questions the validity of that idea. How can I not be a burden if I am demanding the emotional energy of people around me?
Recently, I have made efforts to be open with my partner (of almost 2 years) about my lows and moods, but he seems to have no energy or time for me. In fact, 3 weeks after my initial sharing that I needed him to be more present with me, he confronted me to say that he only wants to be committed to himself. I feel betrayed, and so lonely, because of various promises we made to each other about being supportive that are now broken. I feel like a burden to him, and that I have to suppress my suffering so he doesn't abandon me, and I so desperately do not want to be alone right now.
on a side note, this site doesn't seem to get a lot of traffic; are there others where the online community is more present? Thanks!
Recently, I have made efforts to be open with my partner (of almost 2 years) about my lows and moods, but he seems to have no energy or time for me. In fact, 3 weeks after my initial sharing that I needed him to be more present with me, he confronted me to say that he only wants to be committed to himself. I feel betrayed, and so lonely, because of various promises we made to each other about being supportive that are now broken. I feel like a burden to him, and that I have to suppress my suffering so he doesn't abandon me, and I so desperately do not want to be alone right now.
on a side note, this site doesn't seem to get a lot of traffic; are there others where the online community is more present? Thanks!
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