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    Depressed Spouse


    I am new to this forum. I am writing about my husband, who is depressed and I am not sure how to help him. We moved to Canada a few years ago from Europe (much warmer climate) for me to pursue my career. The change of climate is not helping and he can't get used to it. The problem is that he's hypochondriac and any little medical problem (cold, sore throat) makes him panic and makes him depressed.

    He used to take paroxetine and it did wonders for him, but it caused some bad side effects (***ual side effects and also problems with his stomach - which is something that was particularly distressing to him). Now he is scared to try any new drug, and is not feeling well, mentally. Paroxetine was prescribed by our doctor in Europe so he doesn't have his doctor in Canada, and due to his bad experience with paxil, he distrusts doctors and medication. I don't know what to do or how to make him try. He says he has no will to live and it makes me distressed because I don't know what to do.

    Do you perhaps have any advice here?

    Although now that I write this, I think it might also be seasonal affective disorder, because he is very sensitive to weather/climate changes and his condition typically worsens in winter. You can imagine this being a problem in Canada, especially since he is not used to climate.

    PS- We live in Alberta. Do you feel there are a bit warmer areas where we could move to feel less of this climate effect?

    Welcome to the forum Lilibean. I’ve been in this country for many years now and I will never like the cold long winters. You do learn how to dress for them, and how to find ways to keep busy and stay active. Still, I’d be happy to skip that season.

    The climate across Canada can be quite dramatically different. I would consider seeing a doc for an assessment before packing up the boxes. Weather can be a huge factor for some people, but there be other factors worth exploring as well.


    Humans punish themselves endlessly
    for not being what they believe they should be.
    -Don Miguel Ruiz-


      Hello and welcome Lilibean. Unfortunately there is no way to force a person that they need help. Counselling may help, but it can get expensive in a hurry. Some therapist will work on a sliding scale according to your ability to pay. A Councillor may be able to convince him that some meds are worth taking. Also working with your pharmacist can help as a pharmacist can make suggestions about how to handle the side effects. Take Care. paul m
      "Alone we can do so little;
      Together we can do so much"
      Helen Keller